If you had asked 13 year-old me where I would be in ten years I can guarantee you single and graduate school would not be her answer. And yet, here I am at 23 and my biggest commitment is my dog. Don't get me wrong I don't hate my life, it's just not how I imagined it would be.
But on nights like this, while I sit on my porch with a martini in my hand and Banks at my feet I admit I have mixed emotions.
I never really mind be single until I'm with my friends and their significant others. I'm used to being the odd one out, I've even grown to enjoy being the single friend. I am especially thankful for the single life the more I try to enter the dating.
Growing up dating appeared to be this magical experience where boys and girls went out on all these neat adventures and would either a) stay friends b) be heart broken c) fall in love. Well I'm here to tell you that it is WAY more complicated than that.
- By definition a "date" rarely happens. Nowadays we "hangout."
- Don't even think about analyzing the difference.
- Boys made up the term "just talking" because girls needed a label.
- There are too many labels to even begin to list them.
- If in case you do get to label it "dating" it does not mean you are only "dating" that one person.
- If you want a serious, monogamous relationship you must actually state this.
- Never assume.
- Don't hop on the feelings train by yourself.
- "Expectation is the root of all heartache." - William Shakespeare
- NEVER, I mean NEVER, think you can change them.
- There is an art to texting to which no one will ever master.
- If you do text make sure it's non-committal.
- The "friend zone" is real.
- And it has 3 zones - Friend, Friendly and Friendlier.
- There is a fine line between pretending to be uninterested and actually being uninterested.
- You can't be a prude, but you also can't be a hussy - another fine line.
- Last, but not least, remember The Dating Game - where the rules are made up and the points don't matter.
Stay Sassy - A.
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